Ever since I found out I was pregnant, I wanted to write about this experience. I’m definitely new to this baby world and I really didn’t know what to expect. I managed to take a pregnancy test the earliest that I possibly could. I had been tracking my period on an app on my phone (technology!) called Clue, which I absolutely love. So when my period was supposed to arrive, I was already purchasing a pregnancy test. That’s right, I got to experience every magical moment from the very beginning.
At that point, everything I knew was taught to me by characters in TV and movies and everyone seemed so happy so I figured the morning sickness wouldn’t be that bad. Oh, but it was for me. Now, after reading so many different articles, books, and of course, talking to my doctor, I know that I’m not the first to say that I was absolutely miserable in the first trimester.
Having morning sickness, to me, was like being hungover all the time. I had a headache, everything gave me nausea and when it was the most crucial to eat healthy and nutritious foods, I just wanted to sit there on an empty stomach, which of course made the nausea worse. I could definitely tell my hormones were changing because I was moody all the time. I had to go to the bathroom every half hour which interrupted my sleep cycle and that didn’t help the grumpiness.
There were a few things that made me feel better, especially towards the end:
- Vitamin Water Especially the dragonfruit flavor. I think I needed all the sugar and was pretty hydrated after being sick so much.
- “Bringing Up Bébé” A book I picked up after seeing it on Mother Mag, probably my favorite motherhood site. I highly recommend.
- Warheads Why does sour candy curve nausea? I don’t know, but I figured if I had to go sour, I would go all the way. I also loved eating cucumbers in lime juice.
- Ginger Chews Ginger is definitely supposed to help and these were awesome. I grabbed a handful and threw them in my purse (which basically became a snack bag).
- Sleep Lastly, duh, just sleep. It’s the only thing that made me feel better. Plus I would also fall asleep at random times. I think most of my days off were spent sleeping.
I found so much solace in reading blog posts of women experiencing the same thing. There were days when I didn’t want to get out of bed, let alone go to work or clean the apartment. Another thought that brought me comfort was thinking how it would all be worth it. Of course, like all things, the first trimester came to an end and so did all the negative that came with it. So far, my pregnancy has been pretty textbook. At exactly the end of three months, I felt like myself again.
I recently made a huge announcement via social media about Lukasz and I. We’re gonna have a baby! It feels nice to finally be 100% completely open about it. It was never a secret to our inner circles of friends and family but now it’s officially “out there”. Now I don’t have to think twice about tweeting ALL of my complaints about pregnancy. Just kidding, kind of. I mean it has definitely been an interesting past few months having to navigate something we both had absolutely no experience in. The last time I dealt with any kind of baby talk was when my mother was pregnant with my baby brother about 15 years ago and I was 12 years old. I have long since forgotten basically anything and everything about being pregnant, although the memory of having to change a lot of poopy diapers still lives on, so I have that to look forward to.
When we first found out, we both had a lot of questions, the biggest one being: “CAN WE DO THIS?” I mean of course we can. People have been doing this for years and years. It was so easy to freak out in the beginning. Being a worst-case scenario type of girl, I definitely freaked out the entire first trimester. I read devastating stories of women having miscarriages, I googled everything I ate and every symptom. We also found out the earliest we possibly could, which happened to be right before our big camping trip to New Hampshire and Maine. That’s where I found out that lobster made me sick to my stomach and that, when camping, make sure you pick a campsite close to the bathroom. Maybe just don’t go camping in the first trimester. But, alas, I’m 4 months now and we’ve learned to calm down a little bit and enjoy this crazy time. Sometimes big life changes can be like a puzzle and we just have to figure out how to make everything fit.
We have been trying to keep track of all the milestones of this pregnancy like the emotional roller coaster that was the first time we saw the tiny bean on the ultrasound screen to the time we found out it was going to be a A GIRL, up until now because theres no more hiding behind a flat stomach (it was never flat), theres definitely a baby bump starting to take shape. I even think I felt a little flutter in my belly these past couple of days! It’s definitely going to be fun to document this big life change and I can’t wait to share more.
This past Sunday, Lukasz and I hosted our very first Friendsgiving. Hosting Thanksgiving dinner was something I had always wanted to do ever since I was a young girl, watching my own mother make her own version of the giant feast (Which included some kind of peruvian stuffing and Russian potato salad). Mine, however, was pretty Americanized. I ended up making it potluck-style and Tatiana and I focused on turkey, stuffing and gravy. Thanks to my mother’s baste recipe, I’d have to say we basically NAILED IT! ( I literally could not be more proud of us.)
The bird was delicious and moist and perfect! Everyone’s side dishes and libations really brought our Friendsgiving dinner together. I couldn’t have asked for a more perfect first Friendsgiving.
Having all of our friends over just made me realize how lucky and thankful I was to be surrounded by so many amazing people. It’s hard to believe it’s only been a few years since I moved to New York from California and I went from knowing absolutely nobody here to creating my own family in this big city. With big changes coming in the future, I can’t wait for many more celebrations surrounded by all the love. 😉